God should i get a divorce

Not only in the Old Testament, but also in the New. But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. Yes, there are Biblical reasons for divorce , and there are times though these are not the norm when divorce may be the best, most Biblical option.

Yes, Christian divorce is bad. Yes, God hates it. He also hates to see your husband entangled in sin. And to see you broken and mistreated.

And if divorce or separation is the only way to stop your husband from sinning through the way that he mistreats you, it may be the lesser of the two evils.

Yes, we should work hard to save our marriages. But I will tell you that God loves you and He has a plan for you, no matter how bleak things look now. Please talk to a pastor or trusted Christian friend to help figure out what the best, most Godly course of action would be.

But whatever you decide, know that you are not alone, that you are loved, and that there is hope. What do you think? Brittany Ann is an author, speaker, and founder of EquippingGodlyWomen. I have reached my very last point on this journey of marriage. God entered my heart 2 years ago. I wanted to serve him and live his will. My partner on the other hand, did not.

He as disrespected me and mentally abused me to the point where I am a nervous wreck. He mocks my love for the Lord and claims I have a holier than though attitude now. I am not like that at all. I pray God give me strength to live his will that I had ignored for so long. I find refuge and peace in the Lord and I can no longer serve as a Godly wife to an un-Godly man.

God bless! We have discussed marriage counseling and we are seeking refuge and repair within the church. Prayer is a powerful thing and I know I am strong enough for whatever comes our way. My husband never put forth an effort before but maybe God turned that heart back on so he can receive his love and mercy and appreciate the gifts he has made for my husband.

This is a tough subject to try to tackle and even a tougher one to live. My husband is an alcoholic and is controlling, extremely self centered, and immature. I have tried everything from counseling with my pastor to trying the 5 love languages tried all 5 to doing the love dare to counseling with a Christian counselor.

It seems the harder I try to make this marriage work, the more he goes into his own world. I also know that I am far from perfect and I am a sinner. I have an amazing support system with great Christian friends and a wonderfully supportive church family.

Have you tried going to see a Christian counselor? My husband will never go with me. My husband wants a divorce right now because he says we are living an adulterous marriage because we were both married before.

He says, after almost 3 years, that our marriage is a sin since my first husband still lives and that we must divorce. My first husband was an alcoholic, a cheater, and addicted to porn. I took vows to him and to God that we would be together forever and now he wants out.

I say this divorce would be compounded sin — committing one sin to cover up for another. How do I stop this? The believing brother or sister is not bound in such cases. God has called you to live in peace. Anyways, as to what you should do, I really encourage you to speak to your pastor.

Hopefully you can get your husband to go with you. Abundance happens when we remain in fellowship with God and worship Him with our lives Romans , even when we go through suffering. God expects us to be in relationship with one another Matthew Married and divorced parents alike have to work on getting along. Divorce is where that gets hard. God values singles and marrieds equally, just as He does any other social grouping Colossians Prophets and prophetesses in the Old and New Testaments often appear to be single.

Paul was single; Jesus was single; many widows who touched the heart of God were single. He describes Himself as patient and wanting your repentance 2 Peter He eagerly seeks to heal your brokenness. Instead, He chooses to forget your confessed sins Psalm He considers you His masterpiece, not a failure Ephesians Righteous living—right living—is not broken. It does not hurt or destroy. We must ask the following question: What does God say about divorce?

It does, however, mention our responsibility to orphans and widows a ton. We are instructed to remember them, encourage them, and provide for them if they cannot provide for themselves. Divorcees are modern-day widows, and children of divorce feel like modern-day orphans. Yes, the fathers or mothers without full custody still exist and may actually be involved in family life. But many single parents fend for themselves.

The Bible only explicitly allows divorce for two reasons. But divorce is allowed, especially in cases where the sinning spouse persists in an adulterous relationship. Keener sees these explicit statements as applicable more broadly to other situations that may not be directly mentioned by Scripture. If he were beating himself, we'd recommend psychiatric help; if he is beating his wife, who is supposed to be one flesh with him, he is certainly not treating her as one flesh.

Some people are too ready to grasp for that point; others wait much longer than they should. Jesus told those persecuted for his name to flee from one city to another to escape persecution Matthew , and sometimes the apostles did so Acts —6.

It is heartless to make someone remain in an abusive situation. This calls for wisdom and balance: Certainly we should do everything we can to protect victims of abuse while at the same time respecting the marriage bond and not dissolving it lightly.

Jones, who is the author of Faithful: A Theology of Sex , brings a broad conceptual view to biblical teachings on divorce. Divorce is not, of course, required in such cases, but it is permissible.

I see this as a way that Jesus protects us in a world torn apart by sin. Because we are precious to God, we are not required to stay in a marriage when we have been betrayed through porneia. Porneia certainly includes adultery, because adultery violates the one flesh union. But porneia can also include violence or abuse against one's spouse because to abuse one's spouse is also to violate that one flesh union.

Christian counselor and author of The Emotionally Destructive Marriage , Leslie Vernick believes there is a strong biblical warrant for allowing people to experience consequences for their sin see 1 Corinthians —12 ; James —20 ; Galatians In her work with women who are experiencing such situations, Vernick first counsels a wake-up call conversation with their husbands, followed by separation if the husband fails to turn from his sin.

A separation of this sort, undertaken with the support of wise counsel, clarifies the destructive consequences of sinful habits and could have the potential to lead to eventual healing and restoration. Vernick emphasizes that there is a difference between a difficult or disappointing marriage and a destructive marriage.

It is easy to become weighed down by the shame of past mistakes. Within the church we see various responses to tough marital struggles. Some may counsel for divorce too hastily, advising couples to forgo the difficult peaks and valleys that are part of any marriage and, in essence, ignoring the high value the Bible places on the marriage commitment. Meanwhile others may respond with legalism, pressuring fellow Christians to stay in marriages that are clearly destructive and unsafe.

There are no cookie-cutter answers to some of these difficult questions. The tension remains: Marriage is a lifelong commitment that is only broken for the most severe reasons.